One of the more difficult things about being a father was missing many of my child’s firsts because I was at work. I missed the first time my son crawled, stood up, walked, and talked. This weekend, I got to experience another one of my child’s firsts, and I could have done without it. 

He was stung by a wasp. 

When your child is stung by a wasp, especially for the first time, a million thoughts race through your head. My initial reaction was to take the Mets Mike Piazza jersey retirement cap off my head and kill/hit the wasp away. The question then is what do you do next?

The answer to this question is call your pediatrician.  Whenever you have a question, call your pediatrician. Go seek medical advice. 

Don’t even stop to google it. You’re going to come up with a number of websites with good to really bad advice. You know Web MD is going to say the limb needs to be amputated immediately or worse. You don’t really know how good the other websites are. Some will say it’s not big deal, just rub some dirt on it while others will convince you to immediately call a faith healer because medical science cannot cure your child. 

So yes, start with your pediatrician as you always should. 

Still reading?  Ok. If you want my non-medical doctor advice, keeping in mind you shouldn’t rely on someone else other than a doctor for medical advice, here is how I recommend proceeding. Again, I’m not a medical doctor. I’m just a rationale human being that’s been stung before. 

First, get rid of the wasp. It’s going to keep coming back to sting again and again and it might call for backup, so hit it with your hat, a newspaper, etc.  Just get rid of it. If there are a number of them around, get out of the area and fast. Don’t risk a second, third, or more stings. If it was a bee, it’s unfortunately going to die now, so pick it up gently (it can’t sting again) and place it in some flowers so it can pass away peacefully.

Second, get the stinger out. Scrape it off with a fingernail, a credit card, etc. Scraping it off is the easiest and probably the best method. Others are using tape to remove the stinger like it’s lint on your business suit or to pinch the skin around it to bring the stinger to the surface and then scrape it away or pluck it out with a tweezer. 

Once the stinger is removed, get ice on it as soon as possible. Even if your child isn’t allergic, which thank God, my son isn’t, the area is going to swell and swell quickly. In fact, even with ice the area will still swell. In the case of my son, it went from a wasp sting on the middle finger to him looking like he had an inflated doctor’s glove for a hand. Bee stings aren’t usually this bad though – they might just create a small lump.

The sting should be fine now if your child isn’t allergic. You should only worry if your child breaks out in hives or has trouble breathing. That’s the sign of an allergy. That means you have to get to a hospital immediately for emergency treatment. 

Once the situation is handled, get a Band-Aid on it with either some Benadryl cream or a baking soda/water mixture. This will prevent your kid from scratching. Keep in mind, it’s going to itch. If you want to prevent infection, remember to use Polysporin and not Neosporin. Young kids may have an allergy to Neosporin. The worst thing you can do is apply something your child has an allergy to an open wound. 

If your child was stung at home, you may have a wasp nest nearby. Check the garden, the eaves and the loft, plus any outbuildings like the shed or garage, to locate the nest. They usually look like a grey mass of paper hanging from the ceiling or attached to a wall, and it’ll be crawling with wasps. Stay well away from it – if they see or smell you they’ll attack you just for being there. Contact a pest control service as soon as possible on a site similar to https://www.pestcontrolexperts.com/local/california/vandenberg-air-force-base/ and leave it to the professionals to destroy. A large wasps nest is full of thousands of wasps which will easily kill you if they sting you enough times.

A bee’s nest, on the other hand, is no risk at all. Bees are friendly and docile unless you physically attack them, so their nest should be left where it is. If it’s in an inconvenient place, get a professional beekeeper to move it for you.

From there, it’s time to go out and get some ice cream and watch the Mets game. 

Actually, no, I missed my first game all year even though my son was excited to see Lucas Duda play for the first time in months (I was too). Of course, the Mets game was of secondary concern to my son being alright. And yes, it did help that the Mets won. It always does.